Friends for Civil Action, some of whom once upon a time, at least on occasion, voted Republican, as our name indicates, value civility. That doesn’t mean we stay quiet when deep violations of proper behavior occur. No person, whatever gender, should direct profanities towards another in what is supposed to be professional capacity. Secretary of State Mike Pompeo apparently behaved disgracefully to veteran NPR news reporter Mary Louise Kelly first abruptly truncating his interview with her Friday, and then calling her in privately to yell and curse at her. Then, today, he kicked another senior NPR reporter off the press corps group scheduled to travel with him to Europe this coming week. We cannot allow government officials, either party, to shut down media outlets they don’t like. We cannot ignore reprehensible behavior on the part of someone responsible for maintaining important diplomatic ties around the world. We cannot sit by idly as the President of the United States, speaking of Mary Louise Kelly, says to Mike Pompeo in front of media outlets, “I think you did a good job on her.” This behavior is not acceptable, and if we don’t relay this message to our Senators and Congressional Representative, even if they seem incapable of hearing our message, we are not doing our job as citizens.
If we oppose putting people in cages,
If we oppose angry people having dangerous guns,
If we oppose ignoring climate change,
If we oppose tax policies that further enrich the already very rich, while increasing our nation’s debt,
If we oppose making fact-based media the enemy,
If we oppose stripping people of human dignity,
If we oppose limiting access to health care based on ability to pay,
If we oppose ignoring expert information when making critical decisions,
If we oppose a President and a party in power who choose to go their own way in the world rather than collaborating for a better world,
If we reject present corruption in government,
If we understand that a little bit of generosity here and a little bit of generosity there is not enough to lead us out this chaos we are in, change the system: VOTE DEMOCRATIC 2020.
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Spread the Word…
After a hiatus from posting, I return to the Friends for Civil Action website, ready to share thoughts about positive political action that we can spread and sustain leading into the 2020 elections. Today’s thought is to remember that economic opportunity concerns us all and has to be part of ongoing political decision-making, no matter what the issue. Here’s a message that speaks to the many that’s easy to state: Economic Opportunity for All, Not Just for the Rich.
Collectively, new and experienced political activists made inroads of hope and progress during 2017 and 2018. This year becomes a time to build on that foundation of engagement, as we develop personal practices that help us remain focused, engaged and useful. Look for posts here in the new year to help with that practice. For those who have an interest in learning more about Friends for Civil Action, see The Postcard Storm by Molly Sharpe at Amazon.com.
In these troubled times, which for many of us seem to be the most disturbing times of our life-span, having words to focus ourselves may be a help. Some have religious and meditation practices that already do this. Others of us may be searching for new words and new ways, either in compliment with other practices or as a new way of being. I have worked on writing a message to help me begin my day and have arrived at these words which I share for others who would find them helpful. The words in italic are personal, designed for others to adapt to their beliefs and circumstances:
“I will move through the day looking for sources of good, even as I traverse the minefields of human suffering.
I will not expect to change myself today, but if I find a path to transformation, it will be because I first met myself where I am. My journey is in my own company, not in the company of the person I may want to be.
As I look for the good in the day, for ways to be part of spreading kindness, I may be challenged by pain. I ignore that pain at risk of becoming fearful or even hateful.
When sorrow, trouble and pain accompany me on my journey, by acknowledging their presence, I can begin to make my way without their strangling me. I can say, ‘Oh, there you are. Now we will see how we can move together until we come to a parting point.’
Troubles, sorrows, and pain do return, sometimes for the same reasons and sometimes, for new reasons. My concern today is what to do in the here and now. Old troubles, sorrows, and pain teach me nothing, if I simply allow them to whirl about me and through me without honest examination.
If today should prove to be one where trouble, sorrow, and pain are at a distance, rather than pressing in on me, I will seek to be aware of the time of rest that is mine to enjoy.
When my friends and others I encounter feel differently from me, I will seek to understand that difference where knowing about it is helpful. However, I will be aware that digging for explanations of difference that don’t tell me anything new or merely remind me of something I had forgotten, even if deeper knowledge of the differences may reveal details I’d previously not known, can be counter-productive. Prying for the details can hurt friendship, when the details are sought in the name of one-upmanship, trying to bring home the point of my way of being the right way.
There are times when the sorrows that occur are so tough it would seem that we can’t survive, and that may be true. The pain may burn through us, breaking us, which in some traditions of belief, gives us opportunity to be born anew.
For myself, I do not know about other lives, but from my past when I’ve experienced extraordinary pain, I do have the sense of having been changed into someone stronger because of finding a path through that pain. So, I am a believer in new life, at least in the sense of a metaphorical resurrection.
My transportation in life is my integrated body-mind system. Even though we are used to speaking of body and mind as two separate parts of a whole, I have come to understand them as integrated and intertwined. I believe my spirit inhabits my transportation. I think of my spirit as the essence of me, the birthright with which I came into the world. I believe each spirit born into this world is as intrinsically worthwhile as every other spirit. It’s our transport that has different set-points, set-points established through circumstances beyond our control.
I believe I receive spiritual visitors. The Christian tradition, in particular the tradition of the Episcopal Church, is part of my life. I now consider myself a pluralist, one who sees many paths, both secular and religious, to whatever the source of kindness in life is. For me, I experience this source as a mystery. Using language from the Episcopal tradition, I experience the presence of the Holy Spirit. The presence of the Holy Spirit in my life and my being when I am invitational to that presence, guides me and holds me up. That presence has seen me through times that I alone could not have expected to weather.
I will move through today, on the outlook for visitors that bring me a sense of the kindness and goodness in the world, so I can draw hope and generosity from that.
As I reflect on my transport for the essence of me and the spiritual visitors who may come through, staying a while or passing along to others, I see my integrated body-mind system for what it is. It has many miles on it. It has been fed more chardonnay and fewer apples than advisable. It has walked and ambled more than skipped and run.
Everyday I have some choices about how I care for the transport I have been given. Because the essence of me has to communicate with a body-mind integrated system that has been shaped by nature and nurture, the essence of me is subjected to my body-mind history.
What will I do about this today? Will I enjoy the ride? Will I try to take over the steering wheel and take my body-mind in another direction? If so, will my body-mind be equipped to shift to the new path I attempt to nudge it towards?
In this moment, I can commit to look out the windows of my transport, using the different senses of my body-mind system, ready to experience the companionship of awe, wonder, and joy as I encounter sights.
As my transport equipment, with its estimated twenty-five feet of intestines secured under the largest organ of my transport, my skin, makes its way through this day, I will love it, flaws and all. I will hope to give it the care it needs.
I will look for chances to be generous, knowing that the ability to give and receive love, not based on worth or merit, but based on being in the midst of so many spirits – each unique and all born with the same level of intrinsic worth – is the healing tonic of our lives.
Along with love, the material help that I can provide expresses and cultivates love. I cannot use generosity to fix others, but I can use it to express love for what is, this very moment.
When I turn my face and don’t render generosity to others or to my body-mind transport, I hope to remember to call upon forgiveness to flow through me, so I can reset and find generous behavior.
I can’t seal myself off from the bad, but I can keep looking for what is good. I don’t need to invite the bad inside. When I encounter it near me or in me, I can look for what is and begin to deal with these unwanted visitors.
When the waters of sorrow, trouble, and pain press against me, I will look for a path to the surface, so I can collect my breath and feel breath’s healing flow again.
May I do my part in spreading kindness.”
Ginia Bellafante in today’s New York Times reports: “A few months ago, the Robert Wood Johnson Foundation produced a report on adolescent wellness that listed the “extreme pressure to succeed or outdo everyone else” prevalent in places where the fortunate congregate – the kind of pressure it said that can lead to overwhelming stress and alcohol addiction – as one of the six greatest threats to healthy adolescent development alongside poverty, homophobia and racism.”
My father’s experience bears this out, as I mention in my message below to the two senators from Texas. The point of my message is to state that Brett Kavanaugh is temperamentally unfit to serve in a lifetime appointment as Supreme Court Judge.
Email to: Senators John Cornyn and Ted Cruz
From constituent Mary (Molly) H. Sharpe
Re: Brett Kavanaugh
The lifetime appointment of a supreme court justice by its nature must require focus on the person being considered. Brett Kavanaugh proved himself temperamentally unfit with his attacking, partisan testimony at the hearing held September 27th. No matter that he was under great pressure; the role he is striving for requires personal greatness. For those of us who do not believe his testimony, his lack of proper temperament is one part of the big problem; his willingness to lie under oath in the name of ambition to judge others is another; and the act itself, as was reported to have occurred, is yet another part.
Then there is the sorrow, if it should come to that, of all the men and some women who will potentially vote to affirm his nomination to show that they are still right in their stand. This is the human condition, for we are all flawed and many, if not most, can get swept into “group think” and complicity. Still as people, we can be better than this. Of all the years I have lived, this is the most vivid tipping point I’ve experienced. May we move out from the shadow and do the right thing by turning back Brett Kavanaugh’s nomination.
As an important piece of personal testimony, my story includes a father Charles Francis Hawkins who graduated magna cum laude from Harvard Law where he served on the Law Review. He was an alcoholic already at the time of my birth which occurred while he was in law school. He managed to acquire top grades and establish a family even as he was drinking heavily — a life course that resulted in death by pancreatic cancer at age 57. Thankfully, he had approaching a decade of sobriety at the end of his life. I don’t know how much Brett Kavanaugh drinks, but I do know that people who drink heavily and who have occasional blackouts (which they are not necessarily going to remember) can make top grades and undertake impressive extra-curricular activities.
I am a political moderate who in the past has supported both Republican and Democratic candidates for office, balancing issues of platform, personal effectiveness, and track record for integrity. Sometimes in the past, I have been casual about my responsibilities as a citizen, but that has all changed in recent years; it is one of the most serious aspects of my life, and not because I’m mad, but because I’m worried.
Many of us move onward today, holding a candle for Dr. Christine Blasey Ford’s bravery: may her incredible bravery and composure inspire us to raise our own levels of kindness, purpose and hope.
I am the author of a political engagement tool, The Postcard Storm, Ten Outcomes We Should All Want. I have not written this with the expectation of turning a profit (several handfuls of the book sold to date). I self-published it to give away to those who might find it useful, including faith organizations. Kindly a woman who is affiliated with Friends for Civil Action, a group I lead, offered me this review of the work: “Wisdom and politics seldom go hand in hand but in this engaging book Molly Sharpe succeeds. Amiably convincing readers that democracy can’t work unless we inform ourselves and engage in civic action, with her account of the women engaged in a post card storm in Texas, Sharpe provides an interesting example. Just as important, though opposed to the Trump administration, Sharpe is even-minded, also opposes the current tribalism that is causing so much damage to our country. I found this very helpful because, as heated as the conflict is now, in the back of our minds both sides know—hopefully sooner rather than later—that Democrats and what is left of the Republican party, have to work together if our country is to survive.”
Because I believe multiple perspectives are critical to problem solving and because I believe civility helps us hear each other, I’m taking time in my life to communicate with public servants in elected office and encouraging others to do the same. The group I communicate with, about three hundred people, operates like a raindrop, connecting with other raindrops.
In our government, as we saw in concluding moments of the hearing, religion and faith are used as shields and weapons, perhaps even more than as sources of kindness and hope. I conclude my letter with this point, because questions of religion and spirituality are at the heart of how I try to live. I happened into being an Episcopalian. My parents were, and my husband is. It has been through this tradition that I have done my exploration of what we can’t see and what we can’t know. I believe there are many good paths to a kind, purposeful, and hopeful life, but, as my particular religious training teaches through the experience of the Passion Play each Palm Sunday when the congregation is called upon to say “crucify him” (Jesus, that is), we people have a history of falling into terrifying crowd behavior. You who live in the political realm where power, ambition, and scapegoating are even more prevalent than most us experience have an extra challenge keeping perspective. I believe, we the people, are called to do the job of helping you in keeping perspective. A good public servant is a treasure. We need such people. We the people need to make that possibility more within reach.
I believe Christine Blasey Ford. Momentarily, I was thrown off as I heard the vehemence of Brett Kavanaugh’s opening remarks. Then I remembered to observe behavior and motive and circumstances. I believe that Judge Kavanaugh’s pain today originates with problems of his own making, mirrored by the problems we all bring to the table.
Using the tool of my religious training, in closing, I’m hoping that all of us, in our various roles, hear the call in the words of Micah 6:8, to act justly, love tenderly, and walk humbly.
Mary (Molly) H. Sharpe
The lifetime appointment of a supreme court justice by its nature must focus on the person being considered. Brett Kavanaugh proved himself temperamentally unfit with his attacking, partisan testimony at yesterday’s hearing. No matter that he was under great pressure; the role he is striving for requires personal greatness. For those of us who do not believe his testimony, his lack of proper temperament is a small part of the problem; his willingness to lie under oath in the name of ambition to judge others is a horror. Worse than that are all the men and some women who will potentially vote to affirm his nomination. As people, we can be better than this. Of all the years I have lived, never has there been such a shadow on our land that I have witnessed. May we move out from the shadow and do the right thing by turning back Brett Kavanaugh’s nomination.
Many religions and many sets of ethical behavior hold up the value of being welcoming to the stranger. For those who pursue kindness in life, turning back immigrants without regard for their human dignity and needs is at odds with this pursuit. To ignore the tensions immigration places on a government overlooks realities, but as people we are called to deal with those tensions in a humane manner. To boil down immigration policy to a this or that choice between people who are qualified for high-skill jobs versus service jobs or to people who are from one area of the world versus another or to a restriction built around keeping out extended family overlooks who we are as people. We need help from people up and down the skill ladder. We all do better when we are in community with people we love and who love us. Yet, we need diversity, too, not just known people of our particular “tribe,” so that we are learning to open our minds and hearts to new expressions of experience. Public safety is one matter: it involves vetting and security measures, so that dangerous criminals aren’t invited in, putting their new neighbors at risk. Immigration standards and invitations to live here or stay here for those who already are living here successfully are another matter. I continue to hope for a United States that welcomes people from around the world. We will be a better place for it.
George W. Bush said in his eulogy of John McCain, “He was honorable, always recognizing that his opponents were still patriots and human beings. He loved freedom, with the passion of a man who knew its absence. He respected the dignity inherent in every life, a dignity that does not stop at borders and cannot be erased by dictators. Perhaps above all, John detested the abuse of power. He could not abide bigots and swaggering despots.” These are fine words, and now, what we need are fine policies. In his final statement to the nation delivered posthumously through family spokesman Rick Davis, John McCain had written, “We weaken our greatness when we confuse our patriotism with tribal rivalries that have sown resentment and hatred and violence in all the corners of the globe. We weaken it when we hide behind walls, rather than tear them down, when we doubt the power of our ideals, rather than trust them to be the great force for change they have always been.” David Leonardt concluded in his Op-ed piece in today’s New York Times, “the congressional Republicans inside the Washington National Cathedral on Saturday would surely say they came to honor John McCain. But they were there for show. Faced with a choice, they have rejected McCain’s America for Trump’s.” Whether one prefers on political party’s strategies over another, there are common outcomes we should all want, outcomes that aren’t achieved by simple either/or approaches. Taking the border wall as an example, early on in its debut as a campaign platform piece for Donald Trump, experts with knowledge of security and logistics pointed to concerns about the efficiency of a solid wall strategy, even before getting to the bad symbolic messaging that comes from trying to wall ourselves off from others. Yes, people in both parties, regardless of their stances on immigration, want safety that comes from barring as we can cartel action from spreading across the border and from barring other proven violence that puts people at risk. Yet misspending our economic resources on an extended wall when we could be improving our overall vetting and processing system as well as investing in up-to-date surveillance technology creates not only waste, but also lost opportunity to improve all people’s safety, while respecting all people’s human dignity.
Today’s Thought: Anand Giriharadas, author of the forthcoming Winners Take All: The Elite Charade of Changing the World, has received recent coverage in The New Yorker and The New York Times. Here is a quote from Giriharadas’ book which brings forward a nuance to remember when we think that philanthropy alone is an answer to a social problem: “Fake change isn’t evil; it’s milquetoast. It is change the powerful can tolerate. It’s the shoes or socks or tote bag you brought which promised to change the world. It’s that one awesome charter school — not equally funded public schools for all. It is Lean In Circles to empower women — not universal pre-school. It is impact investing — not the closing of the carried-interest loophole.” My belief about this quote from the opinion page of The New York Times on August 26th is that we need both strategic and compassionate private sector philanthropy, and we need holistic public policy that isn’t a reaction to what has already happened, but anticipation of what’s going to happen in the next five and ten years and beyond. This is quite a battle, requiring that we the people speak up again and again.
Background about The Postcard Storm: People participating in The Postcard Storm with Friends for Civil Action have a variety of religious and secular viewpoints and political outlooks, but share a common desire for an inclusive, kind world. As a political moderate, I personally am interested in political policies that focus on outcomes. The Friends for Civil Action movement looks at ten outcomes we should all want: a habitable planet, good healthcare, quality public education, public safety, economic well-being, freedom, enrichment of experience, problem-solving capacity, hospitality, and kind behavior. Because these outcomes are largely interdependent, reducing tactical options to either/or actions will rarely effectively address the complicated matters at hand; yet, that seems to be how options continually get framed. The likelihood of the political arena beginning to function at a high enough level to meet all the facilitation needs government faces in these highly chaotic times seems slim to me. A partial promise lies in speaking up for what we believe is right. Governing is complicated, and the voices of we, the people, are needed.
For people and groups interested in learning more about The Postcard Storm, ten outcomes we should all want, copies of a short book describing the collective actions of Friends for Civil Action is available online from Amazon and Barnes and Noble. Onward we go in pursuit of kindness, purpose, and hope. Molly Sharpe